Thursday, May 29, 2008


What is Stress?

Stress is the "wear and tear" our bodies experience as we adjust to our continually changing environment; it has physical and emotional effects on us and can create positive or negative feelings. As a positive influence, stress can help compel us to action; it can result in a new awareness and an exciting new perspective. As a negative influence, it can result in feelings of distrust, rejection, anger, and depression, which in turn can lead to health problems such as headaches, upset stomach, rashes, insomnia, ulcers, high blood pressure, heart disease, and stroke. With the death of a loved one, the birth of a child, a job promotion, or a new relationship, we experience stress as we readjust our lives. In so adjusting to different circumstances, stress will help or hinder us depending on how we react to it.

How Can I Eliminate Stress from My Life?
As we have seen, positive stress adds anticipation and excitement to life, and we all thrive under a certain amount of stress. Deadlines, competitions, confrontations, and even our frustrations and sorrows add depth and enrichment to our lives. Our goal is not to eliminate stress but to learn how to manage it and how to use it to help us. Insufficient stress acts as a depressant and may leave us feeling bored or dejected; on the other hand, excessive stress may leave us feeling "tied up in knots." What we need to do is find the optimal level of stress which will individually motivate but not overwhelm each of us.

How Can I Tell What is Optimal Stress for Me?
There is no single level of stress that is optimal for all people. We are all individual creatures with unique requirements. As such, what is distressing to one may be a joy to another. And even when we agree that a particular event is distressing, we are likely to differ in our physiological and psychological responses to it.

The person who loves to arbitrate disputes and moves from job site to job site would be stressed in a job which was stable and routine, whereas the person who thrives under stable conditions would very likely be stressed on a job where duties were highly varied. Also, our personal stress requirements and the amount which we can tolerate before we become distressed changes with our ages.

It has been found that most illness is related to unrelieved stress. If you are experiencing stress symptoms, you have gone beyond your optimal stress level; you need to reduce the stress in your life and/or improve your ability to manage it.

How Can I Manage Stress Better?
Identifying unrelieved stress and being aware of its effect on our lives is not sufficient for reducing its harmful effects. Just as there are many sources of stress, there are many possibilities for its management. However, all require work toward change: changing the source of stress and/or changing your reaction to it. How do you proceed?

1. Become aware of your stressors and your emotional and physical reactions.
Notice your distress. Don't ignore it. Don't gloss over your problems.
Determine what events distress you. What are you telling yourself about meaning of these events?
Determine how your body responds to the stress. Do you become nervous or physically upset? If so, in what specific ways?

2. Recognize what you can change.
Can you change your stressors by avoiding or eliminating them completely?
Can you reduce their intensity (manage them over a period of time instead of on a daily or weekly basis)?
Can you shorten your exposure to stress (take a break, leave the physical premises)?
Can you devote the time and energy necessary to making a change (goal setting, time management techniques, and delayed gratification strategies may be helpful here)?

3. Reduce the intensity of your emotional reactions to stress.
The stress reaction is triggered by your perception of danger...physical danger and/or emotional danger. Are you viewing your stressors in exaggerated terms and/or taking a difficult situation and making it a disaster?
Are you expecting to please everyone?
Are you overreacting and viewing things as absolutely critical and urgent? Do you feel you must always prevail in every situation?
Work at adopting more moderate views; try to see the stress as something you can cope with rather than something that overpowers you.
Try to temper your excess emotions. Put the situation in perspective. Do not labor on the negative aspects and the "what if's."

4. Learn to moderate your physical reactions to stress.
Slow, deep breathing will bring your heart rate and respiration back to normal.
Relaxation techniques can reduce muscle tension. Electronic biofeedback can help you gain voluntary control over such things as muscle tension, heart reate, and blood pressure.
Medications, when prescribed by a physician, can help in the short term in moderating your physical reactions. However, they alone are not the answer. Learning to moderate these reactions on your own is a preferable long-term solution.

5. Build your physical reserves.
Exercise for cardiovascular fitness three to four times a week (moderate, prolonged rhythmic exercise is best, such as walking, swimming, cycling, or jogging).
Eat well-balanced, nutritious meals.
Maintain your ideal weight.
Avoid nicotine, excessive caffeine, and other stimulants.
Mix leisure with work. Take breaks and get away when you can.
Get enough sleep. Be as consistent with your sleep schedule as possible.

6. Maintain your emotional reserves.
Develop some mutually supportive friendships/relationships.
Pursue realistic goals which are meaningful to you, rather than goals others have for you that you do not share.
Expect some frustrations, failures, and sorrows.
Always be kind and gentle with yourself -- be a friend to yourself.


My greatest stressor??? GUESSSSS!!!! hahaha!!!

Tuesday, May 27, 2008


i found these pictures in the internet...and i just thought it was cute! :) it was actually from a flickr account -- i think it was "dots' treats". i saw their page while i was browsing through yummypieceofcake's flickr sets (i'm currently scouting for a cupcake supplier for :D).

Jake -- my boyfriend's, or rather, h2b's name... nice noh? hehe...

This cupcake was made for a baby boy named Jake who turned 1 year old...
and for me, the picture means that...Jake is my number 1 and he will always be the only 1 for me...

Love you J.A.K.E!! 6 months to go!!

Thursday, May 22, 2008

6 months to go!!!

hiyaa!!! it's exactly 6 months to go before the BIG day!!! i'm so excited!!! yipeee!! but until now, we haven't finalized the details yet. so many things to do and i don't know where to start. this coming june, a lot of events will take place and i can't wait!!!

Thursday, May 15, 2008



i am doomed... i honestly don't know what's going to happen to me in the next 3 days...

i want to break free!! i want to have my life back...

somebody help me!

Tuesday, May 13, 2008

It's time...

The time has finally come…

…to say goodbye.

I have been thinking and re-thinking about what is happening in my life and I think the time has finally come. Goodbyes are never easy. I’m never good in saying goodbye. I hate the feeling of seeing someone walk away, or you walking away from someone or something. I just hate the drama…

But now, I think the time has come for me to let go and move on. I have to find my real purpose in life. I need to find true happiness and contentment. Enough of all these crap! I need to get a life. You only live once so live it to the fullest.

I don’t belong here anymore and I have to find where I fit. It will be a challenge but I know I can do it. I know my loved-ones will be there for me and they will support me. I need to pickup the pieces and find myself.

Whatever that person did to me must be buried and forgotten. I have learned my lesson. And I will no longer let anyone ruin my self-confidence and my self-esteem. I can succeed and I surely will!

To all the people who stood by me through my trying times…I thank you! I’ll forever be grateful for all the help you have given me. You were there when I needed someone and I will truly miss you.

To all those who criticized my way of dealing with things, thank you…you have made me a better person. And without you, I wouldn’t have improved myself.

To you who made me doubt myself…thank you…for I have found the people who truly believe in me. And I have found my true abilities.

Goodbyes will always be a part of life. Without goodbyes, there will be no beginnings…

And now as I say goodbye, I'm just looking forward to start a new life. A fresh life…free from doubts, free from uncertainty, free from hesitations.

Live life to the fullest.